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When web links experiences challenges, very often we want to assign fault and blame. When you are in a free links with
another site, both sites are equally responsible for the dating link exchange. If a banner exchange is not working,
the same thing applies. No matter who appears to be at fault when challenges come up or the traffic exchange ends, both
people are responsible. If you are taking more than your share of your responsibility for the Dating links not working out
the way you would like, you are being a hero. If you take less than your share of responsibility for the exchange not
working out, you are being a victim. You can only heal when you have let go of fault and blame and focus on letting go of
the past and how you can do it differently in the future. This can be a very difficult process if you are hanging on to the
need to be right, anger, judgments and unexpressed resentments, especially if you feel your partner has not or will not take
any responsibility for the health of the relationship. Forgiving and forgetting may seem to be beyond reality for you now.
It is like if someone says to you, Do not think of the color blue, no matter how hard you try, you probably can not stop visualizing
or thinking about the color blue. The same thing happens when you try to forget a negative situation that has an emotional
charge to it. No matter how hard you try, you just can not seem to do it. We believe that instead of forgiving and forgetting,
you have to forgive and let go. Many people write to us wanting to know how they can forgive when they have been wronged,
a spouse cheated on them, they have been abused in one way or another, or they do not feel loved or valued. What
we have found is that the process of healing oneself when cool links has ended requires more than forgiveness. You must also
let go. In almost all cases when you are having a difficult time forgiving someone, you are holding on to an attachment of
some kind or another. The exchange links most commonly manifest themselves in the need to be justified, the need to be honored,
the need to be right, the need to be vindicated, the desire for revenge, and the inability to move past fear.
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